Abortion ~ Not what you'd think I'd say

With the sensitivity of this subject, be assured that I'm not being frivolous with my thoughts and opinions. I don't assume to be any kind of expert or authority on the subject. In fact, the only thing that I claim to have expertise or control over is my own body. With that being said, I have a message for the men out there; how about you stop knocking up women?

I have a few thoughts to address. First: (Before we get started) I have a daughter. She's 26 and beautiful. Were we ready? No. Were we scared? Yes. Did we consider abortion? We spoke of it but never considered. To be honest, it wasn't really an accident. I loved my girlfriend and thought that at the time, having a baby would strengthen our relationship. I kind of did the opposite of the cliche... I tried to trap HER. We were young and my plan of creating a family didn't work out to my fantasy of the fairy-tale expectations.

At the beginning, I mentioned that I have control over my body. This is the meat & potatoes of my thoughts. I'm 46 years old and have had plenty of experiences in my life for pregnancy to be the outcome of my actions. I've "knocked-up" one woman in my lifetime and it happened because ~I have control over my body~ She got pregnant because I chose to get her pregnant. I don't understand the concept of accidental pregnancy. I've lived my life rather irresponsibly, this is an understatement, but I have not run around getting gals pregnant. MEN... This is a serious topic and extremely sensitive subject matter that causes upheaval and unrest throughout our country and around the globe. Women are at the forefront of this and, as they say, it takes 2 to tango.

It is selfish to think that it is just a personal issue / decision between a man and woman who become pregnant. There is a clear and present responsibility to our country to be in front of the very split population. If men could practice a little discipline and restraint, then we wouldn't have to put our beautiful female population in the cross-hairs of such ugliness.

Of course, accidents do happen. contraceptives fail. Again, we have control over our bodies. Restraint and discipline can still prevail. I know that I keep saying that without actually being descriptive, I'd like to think that if you're reading this, you have the presence of mind to figure it out. I want to keep this post PG-13 if possible.

In closing, I will offer my stance. I believe that abortion shouldn't be used as birth control. If you made the mistake, you should own up to it and perhaps offer an unwanted child to a desperately wishing couple. I'm aware that tragedies and trauma's happen. More specifically rape. I think this is an appropriate consideration for abortion. I believe that there should certainly be a term limit. I don't presume to know what its like to be a pregnant woman, but in my experience it seems as though they figure it out pretty quick, and it should be dealt with immediately. The thought of a 4+ month abortion seems rather cruel.

We should educate our youth about, not just the responsibilities of getting pregnant, but also educate about the big picture of the political aspects. The social unrest and the hate of it all. I was one of them. I was young and was aiming for that desire to have marriage/family and that love in my life. Even at 20 years old, I had no clue. Its sad that of all the species on the planet, humans are stupid for at least 25 years. Or maybe, that was just me.

Yes, this is a predominantly a female-fronted issue, but I don't want to throw all of you women under the bus as being just "your problem". Men have a direct connection in participation, because of which, we can also practice a participating responsibility to show some respect, show some courtesy, and practice some f*ing restraint. It isn't fair to be walking around like studs while women get spit on going to a clinic that YOU sent her to.